Today I want to consider that the role of being mothers, goes much further than a term, because there are biological mothers, surrogate mothers, adoptive mothers, single mothers, foster mothers, mothers who head a household, but all of them, for one reason or another, put their whole heart into the role of being “a mother”.
A mother is that person who, without expecting anything in return and without having graduated in motherhood, becomes a professional psychologist, electrician, plumber, firefighter, nurse or police officer, and seeks her child's wellbeing at all costs, their happiness and their autonomy.
Mother's Day: mothers, moved by selfless love, put in place and take on a series of strategies, sacrificing their time, their personal growth, their work, their rest and even their health, to take their children much further than she was able to go.
But besides being a person with dreams, hopes, plans and projects, being a mother is also a way of life, because motherhood is not a jacket you put on when you get home and take off when you leave; motherhood is a permanent role that cannot be left, in fact, I would dare to say that motherhood is like a “spirited young mare” that, once you are up there, nobody can get down from.
“There is only one mother”.
The term "there is only one mother", brings a genetic truth to the table. We are all born of only one father and one mother, but this phrase, often said from the emotional brain, dresses motherhood in an almost supernatural halo that will last until adolescence, when we will believe that that mother who knew everything, whom we had literally placed on a pedestal, suddenly has limited knowledge.
And then comes the devastating phrase: “Mom, it's just that you don't know”. Even when it is said in the sweetest possible voice and at the best of moments, it leaves a mother literally flat on the ground.
Fortunately, and in fairness as time passes and with whatever maturity we manage to reach, it is thanks to that mother “who knows nothing about anything” that, when we have a child, we manage to put her back in place, on a pedestal far higher than the first one, one we unsuccessfully try to reach.
From the children's perspective
A mother teaches in the most pedagogical way there is, she teaches by example. And she will strive to pass on to her child all kinds of values and principles until she sculpts us into him. So much so that even if that child wants to do without them, at most they will be able to hide it and sometimes will stop looking at them, but they will have to make a great effort to forget them. Then… what becomes of those who are left without a mother early on? They will be people who have to learn to live with that absence, although in the best of cases they will find a good person willing to help, obviously without being able to replace their mother.
Today it is striking that more and more women voluntarily refuse to experience biological motherhood, whether because of long-term contraception or particular conditions, or because of fear of the uncertainty that life itself brings.
Life is not made of certainties… on the contrary, it is a dynamic thing about which we know little, and that makes it the greatest challenge of every day. But whatever the reason, they are saying no to the greatest adventure they could live. An adventure full of rewarding surprises that widen the heart and fill life with color, a life that without motherhood seems written in “black and white”.
That life makes sense to the extent that we give ourselves to the service of others, to giving, to giving of ourselves for others.
The commemoration of Mother's Day
Celebrating Mother's Day will of course have as many ways and forms as there are children on the planet. That day there will be those who get up reluctantly to clumsily prepare a breakfast, but there will also be those who prefer to sleep in and have a meal from the best restaurant sent to her; there will be others who save their allowance all year to buy her a gift, but there will also be those who give her exactly what she needed.
It is time to give wellbeing to that very special being, it is time to care for them. Flower essences are a wonderful gift that the earth gave us; besides being natural, they can help you at different stages of life, offering emotional balance and good energy.
The best we can do on this day, and on all days in general, is to be grateful to this wonderful being that life gave us, for their dedication and effort, it is time to give back a little of what they gave us: Life. Make it vibrate high, naturally!