Heartbreak is a wound in the heart that does not hurt physically, but it does affect us deeply, and living it the wrong way can make it last a long time.
Relationships do not always turn out as we hope. When something stops working and everything ends, we enter the emotional territory of heartbreak, which is lived intensely and differently depending on the person.
Heartbreak is a feeling that arrives with a sudden shift, where negative emotions can play tricks on us — because if it is not lived in a healthy way, the person can carry feelings that weigh on the soul.
With that in mind, the best move is to take a moment to think and ask yourself about the emotions you are feeling, to know whether they are positive or negative and what effects they are having.
For that reason we will put heartbreak on a scale, showing its bright and hard sides so you can identify which side you want to stand on.
Heartbreak as an enemy
Heartbreak can be bittersweet to process, because we feel too many emotions — anger, sadness, disappointment, and insecurity — because the person who is no longer there makes us feel different.
When we go through this feeling, it is close to living a grief, feeling that we have lost a half of ourselves that will not come back and whose absence hurts.
It affects self-esteem
Being heartbroken can make us think we are not enough for anyone, because we start to see flaws where there are none — physical or behavioral. Low self-esteem brings insecurity and weakens trust.
It has a psychological impact
Living with heartbreak can bring so much anger that we may lash out without weighing the consequences, then feel regret. Another psychological effect in this stage is pulling away from the other person, because we feel we cannot go on with them — and that without them life does not continue.
In this stage we also find sadness: a state like heartbreak rejects joy and the heart feels torn — something like a snowball effect that, over time, starts to melt, teaching us that everything can pass.
Heartbreak as a friend
Not everything is a direct blow to the heart: heartbreak has a bright side, because first it shows you that you are someone worth valuing — and you must love yourself before you can love from the outside.
It trims you down
Better known as the heartbreak diet, heartbreak can be a way to lose weight — we burn fat by sleeping more, eat less, and fast now and then. Still, it matters to care for your health and adopt habits that keep the mind busy: exercise, good food, study, or work.
You save money
We know keeping a relationship is not cheap, especially in the early stages, so when heartbreak arrives, savings do too — a chance you can use to invest in learning, travel, or things you enjoy.
Ugly-duckling syndrome
As in the children’s tale, each person has their own happy ending, and it is up to us to write our own ending and new beginning — to rise from the ashes the flame of love left behind, because we are the ones who must value ourselves in the circumstances, learn from them, and build new loving experiences without breaking ourselves.
Now that you have seen both sides, which side of the scale do you want to stand on?
